“Been there, done that”. What is adversity? Nobody born, on this planet, has ever avoided the constant that we know as examples of adversity. The adversity examples that will, throughout your lifetime, challenge you physically, mentally, and spiritually.
And these examples of adversity, will either ‘make’ you or ‘break’ you. If you come to terms with the inevitability of adversity in your life and the choice that it ultimately forces you to make, then surely you would only choose what’s best for you right?
What is Adversity? “What Doesn’t Kill You Will Only Make You Stronger”
Examples of adversity may be a tragic death in the family, divorce, a motor accident, illness, suffering a physical or mental disability, losing your job, failing an exam, a neighbor’s dog barking, etc.
As in the case of Decaress Smith. A former inmate who endured over 20 years of his life behind bars. A man who witnessed with his own eyes men being raped, bludgeoned, drug-addicted, sick, and even dying behind bars in their prison cells, not from the death penalty.
He’s even endured being attacked himself. He’s faced half the skin of his face hanging off his skull from a knife attack, and even sliced along the length of his spine down his back. He’s even faced a gunshot to his legs.
Yet through all these examples of adversity, he managed to endure. He emerged out of his ordeals to share his story on The Hustlers Corner NYC. But the story doesn’t end there. He changed the direction of his life behind bars, acquiring a college degree to prepare him for the outside world.
Only to be met by rejection after rejection on job applications due to his felonious record. But still, he would let that stop him. So when you ask, what is adversity? This would be a perfect explanation.
An explanation that reveals the results of his poor choices throughout his life, and the system of systemic oppression ready and willing to take advantage of those poor choices. Due to his life from behind bars, he is no longer allowed to possess a firearm legally or otherwise.
He even explained how an associate of his was no longer allowed to possess or be in the vicinity of any firearm for the rest of his life but was put back in the prison behind bars because of a firearm owned by his spouse, not him.
What is Adversity? The curious case of Leslie Vass
Leslie Vass was an aspiring young basketball player from Baltimore, Maryland. One day on his way to pick up a newspaper from a local drugstore, he was accosted and arrested by a police officer accusing him of a crime he did not commit.
His case was handled by a corrupt attorney from the public defender’s office. His only interest in Leslie’s case was the money that his mother scraped together to hopefully get him exonerated.
A pitiful and disgusting example of a corrupt so-called professional using the plight of the underprivileged and oppressed for his own monetary gain. But then again, as we all know America itself was built upon the exploitation of the pain of the downtrodden.
As Leslie shared with us on The Hustlers Corner NYC this corrupt attorney’s primary concern whenever he saw them was one single disgusting question. “Did your mother give you any money for me?”
And despite evidence that was withheld that would have exonerated him, and the testimonies of neighborhood residents who knew that Leslie’s character was crime-free. Even the owner of the drugstore himself was willing to come forth and testify on behalf of Leslie’s innocence.
All of this did nothing to stop the railroading freight train known today as the corrupt criminal justice system. Leslie was found guilty of a crime he did not commit in a corrupt court of law tainted by racism and a “guilty until found innocent” mindset. He spent 15 years of his life behind bars for that crime, while the true perpetrator got away.
What is Adversity? The curious case of Jeffery Deskovic
Jeffrey Deskovic was a young teenage high schooler who was quiet and kept to himself. But miss fortune came his way when a young girl in the neighborhood was found murdered. He was immediately considered the suspect based on his reclusiveness.
He was taken into custody and subjected to an onslaught of interrogation questioning. That questioning included gaslighting. And gaslighting is a form of psychological assault in which you basically bake a person’s noodle against them.
The whole idea behind gaslighting is to get the person to implode against themselves. The tactic is to increase fear and self-loathing based on what others think of you. For a mature older person this tactic would have little effect.
In other words, the maturity and experience of such a person would automatically put them in the “been there, done that” response. However, this tactic would still have an effect even on older people suffering from low self-esteem, self-value issues, and post-traumatic stress disorder.
Such mental and emotional issues would make people prime candidates for this type of “pretending to care” interrogation. For me personally, the best way I have learned to handle this type of fake “pretending to care” is by simply letting them know that I don’t give a shit what they think of me.
But for a person as young as Jeffrey was at the time of his arraignment, this tactic can easily have a devastating effect. Jeffrey called it the “good cop bad cop routine”. And just like Leslie Vass evidence was withheld that could have proved his innocence and exonerated him. He ended up spending 16 years behind bars for a crime he did not commit.
All of these examples of adversity, big or small, are all contributors to the type of person that you become, and if you want to be the truly happy and successful type, then you should learn the following, to ensure that your moments of adversity “Will Only Make You Stronger”.
The following tips are how to deal with these examples of adversity to ensure you stay on course and achieve your goals.
- There’s An End To Every Adversity…
All moments of adversity, all life’s challenges, come to an end. There is nothing you cannot overcome with time, perseverance, and patience.
Although it may be hard to forget, you can get past it and learn from it. Adversity is your teacher on the way to bigger and better things.
- Go With Your Heart
Stop listening to others and start listening to your inner-self. You will be amazed how often your intuition, is on the money – it’s a very efficient weapon for fighting against the wrong decisions leading to bad roads.
Other’s opinions of you in your moments of adversity don’t always gel with how YOU feel you should handle the situation.
- Your Goals
Focus on your planned goals, not on the tough times you’re going through. Focus on the good that’s left. Staying in examples of adversity and dwelling on the negatives will NOT help you.
Laughter is the very BEST medicine for the trauma of emotional pain. Find reason to laugh or smile once every day. There’s always something to read or watch. There’s also plenty you can check out on the net. There are millions of places where you can go to read or watch something that keeps you in that positive mindset.
- And Finally
You’re never on your own when faced with examples of adversity. Everybody, has to face them as they go through life. But you don’t have to let any of them beat you to your knees and keep you there.
You can get through and get past any example of adversity if you understand that it’s just another one of life’s “tests”. Learn to laugh, learn to cope, learn from life’s harsh lessons, and you’ll ultimately become stronger and go on to be the success.